I met Samir about 6 months ago at a party and it is now 4 months since we have started a relationship. We have had some differences, but, we have come to care for each other a lot and therefore, are able to overcome those differences.
However, last week I accidentally discovered that Samir’s son is subject of a child protection plan under the category of parental neglect in the same local authority where I am on placement.
Samir lives in a different local authority and has divorced his wife about 15 months ago. He had told me that he had a son but, had divorced his wife and had not seen his son after the divorce.
I spoke with Samir about this and he said that the domestic violence allegations were “A pack of lies made up by his ex-wife” and that his wife had made his son hate him and that is the reason he never attempted to see his son after the divorce.
Now I am confused and don’t know what to do. I care a lot about Samir and would like to be able to continue my relationship with him. However, I am worried that my relationship might be violating Social Workers’ code of conduct. I am also familiar with the cycle of domestic violence and therefore, am concerned about the previous DV allegations, although they were subsequently withdrawn.
Can you please help me understand if I am violating Social Workers’ code of conduct by continuing my relationship with Samir?
and do I really have to break my relationship with Samir?
What is the best solution and the best way forward?
Please note this is not a real-life scenario and as mentioned in the title it is a case study and part of our Case Study Series.
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